Some Thoughts on Step Parenting

Some Thoughts on Step Parenting


Step parenting, if it’s to be done successfully, requires the cooperation of everyone involved. This can at times be difficult in that it’ssmiling not unusual that at least one of the parties doesn’t want do go down that road to the new life. This is usually a child, or the children, but can be a step-parent as well. Even when things go smoothly, being a step-parent can be one of the hardest jobs there is to do. It can also be a thankless one.


The Problem of Accepting and Dealing With Change


Many times, the child or children in the family will quickly accept the new step-parent. This may also happen slowly at times, but feelings of real affection soon take hold. Some children simply need a little time to adjust. Others simply refuse to accept the change, in spite of the best efforts and intentions of their new step-parent. Part of this often has to do with the child feeling it’s lost control of the environment it lives in and possibly even of itself. A child cannot be faulted for feeling this way. Many adults not only fear change, but they often have a great deal of trouble dealing with change if it should occur. Most adults learn to deal with change however, but sudden change is something that can be brand new to a child, and not knowing what to do may cause that child to either withdraw or strike out.

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When Just a Few Parenting Tips Will Do

When Just a Few Parenting Tips Will Do


It would be difficult if not impossible to put together a list of parenting tips that would cover all possible situations. Even if that were possible, the list would be so long it would be impractical. A better approach might be to look at parenting tips in a rather general sense and go on from there.


Define the Objective Before Trying to Work the Problem


familyWhat can good parenting accomplish? One of the most important thing parents can do for their children is to work toward building strong and healthy relationships. Another very important part of good parenting is having the ability to correct and change problem behavior. This will most often involve nipping problems in the bud, which in itself is a valuable tip. In addition to correcting and changing the behavior of their children, parents need to work at minimizing those problems that may arise that are disrupting to the family as a whole. Minimizing does not mean sweeping problems under the rug. That practice can soon become self-defeating. Just as it makes sense to nip problems a child may be causing in the bud, the same thing needs to be done with problems beyond a child’s control, but may be harmful to the child and to the rest of the family as well.


Yelling Accomplishes Little


Yelling is a good way to release energy, but it does not belong in any list of good parenting tips. Some parents spend a lot of time yelling at their children. They aren’t necessarily being abusive. Two things are usually behind this type of behavior. One is that the parent is letting his or her emotions take over. The second is that the child soon learns to ignore the yelling, or tune it out, knowing it will seldom escalate into something else. There are even times when children use their parents yelling at them to their advantage. They know which buttons to push to precipitate the action and they’re likely to get away with it. There are families where the children, even the very young ones, are really the ones that call the shots.


Making the Right Way Easier


Parents could profit from taking a page from a good horse trainer. Such a trainer has learned that to get the desired results it has to be made easy for the horse to do the right thing and made difficult for the horse to do the wrong thing. Horses quickly learn to take the easier path. Children can as well, although there are at times exceptions. This approach is sometimes called praise and punishment. Punishment is not the right word. A withholding of praise is often punishment enough. Even children who habitually misbehave like being praised when they do something right. Some parents make the mistake of excusing bad behavior, which is really a misuse of praise. There needs to be a balance between discipline and affection.


Five Basic Tips That Should Resolve Most Issues


So far the parenting tips that have been touched on or alluded to have been these:


–  Correct inappropriate behavior by nipping the problem in the bud.

–  Don’t allow family problems to get out of hand. Nip them in the bud as well.

–  Recognize that yelling seldom does a child, or a parent, any good.

–  Make doing the right thing easier for the child and make doing the wrong thing more difficult.

–  Work at finding a good balance between praise and discipline.


A Few Thoughts on Discipline


Discipline is a subject many parents struggle with, yet when it is applied properly the child will benefit greatly. The child will benefit even more from learning the importance of self discipline. As far as discipline is concerned, most parents will fit in one of three categories.


–  Many parents are permissive. Some are even afraid to discipline their children for fear of damaging their feelings. Consequently the children have few rules to go by, and many of the rules that do exist are often ones they have made themselves.


–  At the opposite extreme are the authoritarian parents. Children of these parents learn quickly what the rules are and learn quickly that they are to be followed. An important thing that is often missing however is affection. The parents often act as if the rules to be followed are more important than are those who are expected to follow them.


–  The authoritative parent is the parent who has found the right balance. This parent has clear expectations for his or her children and the children are aware of what those expectations are. The difference between the authoritative parent and the authoritarian parent is that the authoritative parent mixes discipline with affection. Most children are happy to follow the rules.


It would seem that a list of tips for parents could be a rather short one. There are always the exceptional circumstances that have to be contended with, and on a few occasions outside help or guidance may be necessary. The best approach for a parent might be to work at being authoritative. It is something that does not always come easy for many.

Step Father Quotes for All Occasions

Step Father Quotes for All Occasions


If you’re looking for a few step father quotes to add to a card or a letter, or if you simply want to browse through some meaningful step dad-related sayings then you’ve landed in the right place. Being a step parent is a job that not all can handle: it’s tough at times but ultimately rewarding. Whether you’re a step father yourself or hold a great appreciation for your own step dad, the following step father quotes are sure to hit an emotional nerve and ignite a new appreciation for step fathers.

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Cuts, Bruises and Skin Tear in Children and their Remedies

If you have young children, you may not yet experience having to deal with tattoo scabbing if your teen decided to have a tattoo which has led to certain complications. But you may have to deal with other skin problems which need immediate first aid or treatment to avoid infections and complications. I cannot recount anymore the number of bruises or wounds that my children have had as a result of playing indoors or outdoors. No matter how I tell them to be more careful, it is really unavoidable for them to have bruises, cuts or skin tear.


Just like scrapes, cuts are also common among young children. This skin condition can easily be treated at home. The first step when dealing with a cut is to wash it thoroughly with a mild soap and running water to remove any debris or dirt which might have entered it. If it is still bleeding, be sure to stop the pain by covering the wound with a gauze or towel and applying pressure on it using your palm. Keep the pressure until the bleeding stops. When the bleeding stops, apply a topical antibacterial ointment then apply a bandage and let it heal.

However, if the cut is in the face or when it is bigger than half an inch or it is jagged, it is best to bring your child to a doctor rather than treating the wound yourself.


It is very common for active children to have bruises. They normally get bruises when they accidentally bump onto hard objects. A bruise results when the capillaries of the skin burst and the blood becomes trapped under the skin surface.

Bruises may occur in any part of the body. Some bruises are not so obvious and can easily go unnoticed. While bruises are not something you should be worried about because they usually come and go, there are instances when you have to bring your child to a doctor for checkup. This is true for unexplained bruises that do not heal after two or more weeks. In this case, the bruises may be caused by a more serious health problem which would require a doctor’s attention.

Skin Tear

Although tearing of the skin is more common among older people, some children could also have it. This may occur among children who have dry skin, are malnourished, or are suffering from dehydration. Parents can help prevent skin tear by monitoring the nutritional intake of their children and applying moisturizer on the skin. But if your child does get a skin tear, you should wrap it with gauze to promote healing. Change the gauze regularly before it dries on the skin making it more difficult to remove the gauze.

As parents, we should be able to know how to deal with these common skin conditions with our children. There is no cause for panic when children have them. They are treatable and can easily heal if treated properly.