Some Thoughts on Step Parenting
Step parenting, if it’s to be done successfully, requires the cooperation of everyone involved. This can at times be difficult in that it’s not unusual that at least one of the parties doesn’t want do go down that road to the new life. This is usually a child, or the children, but can be a step-parent as well. Even when things go smoothly, being a step-parent can be one of the hardest jobs there is to do. It can also be a thankless one.
The Problem of Accepting and Dealing With Change
Many times, the child or children in the family will quickly accept the new step-parent. This may also happen slowly at times, but feelings of real affection soon take hold. Some children simply need a little time to adjust. Others simply refuse to accept the change, in spite of the best efforts and intentions of their new step-parent. Part of this often has to do with the child feeling it’s lost control of the environment it lives in and possibly even of itself. A child cannot be faulted for feeling this way. Many adults not only fear change, but they often have a great deal of trouble dealing with change if it should occur. Most adults learn to deal with change however, but sudden change is something that can be brand new to a child, and not knowing what to do may cause that child to either withdraw or strike out.